Is it important to be well behaved during a family photo shoot?
As a photographer I can’t say that it is.What is real life?What do you want to remember?Are our best moments when we are perfectly posed or would they be perfectly imperfect as wild crazy laughter?As a mother I want to remember both!How do we let our children go be who they are and still hold on, guide, teach and love them thru all that they will encounter in this life with out having to pose our way thru it.I believe that there are so many trip lines and land mines along the way to a goal that we never really reach.The goal of what?Making them good citizens, successful, happy.All general dreams for them.I grapple with these notions each day.
And then this family shoot struck me.As a photographer I vacillate between what I want and what the client wants, the perfectly posed photo and the reflection of joy and play.Can you have both? I can't pose joy and play.Not authentically anyway.As I parted from this family I was nervous about the photos I had gotten.I felt that mostly I herded cats and didn’t do my job to the fullest.I should have taken more control of the moment by straightening hair and lifting or lowering chins.But when I went over the pics of this amazingly candid family I couldn’t help but laugh.
What mother wouldn’t want to have these photos of her beautiful, happy, successful, amazing children?It’s all right here in this moment. I just had to stay out of it and let them play! I look at this most amazing mother and see so much love in her heart for her children.She holds them and loves them, bursts in joy for them and cries for them.But most importantly she lets them go. She let them be who they are for these photos, never scolding them for their sillyness or over candidness. She lets them grow and she lets them be the most amazing people that they are destined to be.And that is the hardest part.
What we mothers have to do for our children is the hardest part of all.Letting them go.I cry just thinking about it.But I think about it all wrong.To my ego, letting them go meant separating, loosing, it will never be the same again.But I think what it should really mean is opening my heart enough to share them and gift them to the world.To allow them to bring as much joy to the rest of the world as they have brought to me.I can’t keep my eyes from getting blurry with tears as I write this because that day is all too close.When I will have to share them completely.Baby steps help me get there.
I want to bow to all the mothers before me who have allowed their children to fly.To their brave heart that turned out their most beautiful baby into the world with trust and love for the spirit they are destined to become and already are.I am honored to be apart of the most amazing life journey of motherhood walking with all of my strong brave mothers thru this indescribable time in all of our lives.